The notion of shyness is attributed to someone generally not very sociable and not very demonstrative. It is a personality trait that influences behavior and conditions interpersonal relationships, in addition to limiting the social performance of an individual.
Analyzing the term from an etymological perspective, we can say that it comes from the Latin concept timidus, which means fearful. In the dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy, the concept is expanded by expressing how shy this person is, shrunken, grumpy and who has great difficulties in relating. Although it is a term that is used a lot in everyday life, it is necessary to clarify that there are two types of shyness: the one expected at certain ages and situations, which does not block the individual, and the chronic one, which prevents him from interacting normally. To overcome it, experts recommend relaxation techniques, rejecting irrational ideas, focusing on unwanted thoughts, and exhibiting compelling behavior.
It is a feeling of helplessness when having to perform a certain action in front of another person, a chronic fear that comes from an absolute distrust in oneself and in the people around you. It manifests as an impression of insecurity and shame of oneself that can be experienced in the face of an episode never experienced before and of social scope. This feeling gets in the way of conversations and rapprochement in general. Psychologist Brian G. Gilmartin has long promoted the concept of love shyness to describe a specific type of severe chronic shyness. Sufferers feel uncomfortable in informal circumstances involving potential romantic or sexual partners. Shyness is also linked to the concepts of introversion and extroversion, proposed by the renowned physician Carl Gustav Jung. This psychiatrist and psychologist, it is said, considers introversion as an attitude based on the focus of interest around the internal processes of the subject, while extraversion is the opposite position. Shy people show a predominance of introversion. For Jung, the ideal situation is balance, the flexibility to adapt to the moment and the environment. In shyness there is a duplication of the individual: on the one hand, the observing self; on the other, the actor self. It is one that performs a premeditated action, whose objective is to generate a positive opinion in those who listen to it. In this way, the individual is capable of projecting on others the conception that he has of himself in an ironic and generally threatening way. Causes and development of the disease
The main stage where shyness appears is between the ages of five and seven. At that time, it manifests as fear of itself. Later, in adolescence, it becomes a systematized mechanism; This is because the individual has a greater awareness of himself and begins to act accordingly to achieve a favorable image with the people with whom he interacts. This last step is essential to define the type of shyness that the person has; It can be normal for a young person who is beginning to mature and understand more about his environment and place in the world, or it can be a chronic condition that leads him to isolate himself. Parents who do not allow their children to face situations appropriate to their age and overprotect them to avoid frustration, fear or failure, favor the development of shyness. Likewise, those who force them to demonstrate in front of visitors or compare them with their brothers, causing them shame and frustration. Finally, the lack of understanding, the feeling of ridicule towards others (due to provocations or reprimands that deeply damage them) or the inability to adapt to the changes inherent in the passage from childhood to adolescence, are also factors that facilitate the development of shyness. The importance of parents Shyness is a disorder that, like many others, can be avoided. For him it is essential that priests avoid attitudes with their children such as: * Intolerance: it is essential to speak frankly about what they harm or frustrate;
* Systematic severity: it is necessary to show flexibility in decisions and accept that mistakes are made;
* Constant prohibitions: constant prohibitions encourage introversion and undermine the feeling of freedom;
* Punishment and humiliation: violent challenges or physical aggression, especially against third parties, encourage contempt for them; The best thing is to educate from respect and make the child understand the attitude of the adult without feeling inferior. Instead, it is important to remember all the good things they do; This could be a precious way to help them understand how much Valen is going to believe in them. If his priests do not believe in them, how are they expected to?
