The Latin word virginĭtas passed into Spanish as virginity. The concept refers to the condition of a virgin: one who preserves purity or a person who has not yet had sexual relations. The most common usage refers to the individual who has not had a sexual debut. The scope of the notion, however, varies according to culture and time. Virginity is usually associated with not having developed sexual relations (intercourse, which includes penetration). This means that men and women who have never copulated are virgins: they retain their virginity. If we focus on this definition, having had other types of sexual intercourse (such as oral sex) does not mean loss of virginity. Maintaining virginity is a decision of each person, generally linked to religious and moral issues. Christianity, for example, stipulates that virginity must be preserved until marriage. This precept, however, has lost its validity, since many Christians, regardless of their beliefs, do not marry virgins. In general, and especially outside the religious realm, virginity becomes a “problem” that people must solve as soon as possible once they reach puberty. This seems to affect straight men especially, as not having sex with girls can mean you’re not manly enough or unsure of your sexual orientation, and the more closed-off part of society doesn’t look favorably on these issues. humor. . For the average straight teenager, losing her virginity is one of her priorities, if not the most important; It goes without saying that this is not the case with geniuses or with those beings who feel the call of a vocation from an early age and who dedicate themselves to developing their abilities while their environment deals with trivial things. Seen from adulthood, this “urgency” does not usually have positive consequences, since in more than one case it leads to an unwanted pregnancy, but the brain of a 15-year-old boy is not always capable of processing all this information simultaneously. As machismo makes clear distinctions between how men and women should relate to their sexuality, it is normal for girls who lose their virginity in adolescence to be negatively criticized, for their decency to be questioned. In other words, boys are often admired for having sex for the first time, while girls are condemned. One of the most absurd aspects of this obsession with losing one’s virginity is that most heterosexual adult couples end up losing sexual interest or attraction to each other, so they stop having regular relationships or seek satisfaction in others. As wonderful as we find sex in puberty, the passage of time demystifies it and shows us that it is more a function of our bodies, something that we can all do, not a single skill. Ultimately, something that can disappear from one second to another must not be strong enough to define our lives. Religious virginity is fundamental to the tradition of Christianity. Whoever decides to be a priest or nun must abstain from sexual relations (vow of chastity) and from a partner (vow of celibacy). A clear example of the importance of virginity in Christian dogma is that the Virgin Mary was ashamed by the work and grace of the Holy Spirit, and not for having had sexual relations with her husband, Joseph. In this way, Mary was able to give birth to Jesus without losing her virginity.
